Ok so me being a single mother dating is very new to me. Since I left college in 2005 I have been with the father of my kids for 5 years. So I really never had to experience being a single mother. Even though me and the father of my children aren't together today I’m still not considered a "typical" (single mother that doesn’t have any help from the father's children) single mother because their father is there. But one problem that I’m starting to be aware of is dating as a single mother. I can say it is different from dating when I was young without any children (defiantly easier..Lol). Over the past year of dating a few clowns, and speaking to either my brothers or male friends, I was told that it will be very rare w/ me having two children, any man will be interested in me SERIOUSLY (kind of semi disappointing news :( ). Another thing I had to be aware of is that being I have my own place, car, and got it going on((wink..lol))that a man will only be interested in me for what I have and how he can get by. So I have to have a special radar to detect the "users".
Now seeing that i live in Madison, WI, first majority of the black men date white women. Also Madison is a small town, so everyone has dated everyone. So its less likely to find many black single professional men that likes to date a black woman with one or more children..lol.
So even though I still do what I want and a little hardheaded at times I do still listen to the advice of my lovely male friends (very helpful indeed) and everyone knows I have a bad habit of reading too much into books (lol). So here are some tips/advice I will share to help the single mothers dating out....
1. A man will always be curious and wonder that there is someone out there better than you. It will be until he’s 30 when he will finally settle down and get with it. Even though you might just be the one he wants to marry he will still look at the other chick and wonder "what if". So ladies chill out don't rush it. (Advice from Latone Heart)
2. Never settle for less, a man will only take advantage of what you allow him to take advantage of.
Your kids see and hear a lot more than you think.
You have a lifetime to find love but your child's chilhood it only a short time and once its gone you can't get that time back.(Advice from Gershon Porter aka Sammy)
3. A man that really loves you rarely says "I love you" because he shows it more than he will say it. " I can admit I rarely tell my girl I love her but I have sent her flowers at random times"( Advice from Chen Cheng)
4. If a nigga can tell you within three days he loves you thats BS... that nigga is telling you exactly what you want to hear don't fall for it. ( Advice from Marquis Fort)
5. A man always wants something. ALWAYS. And when it comes to women, that plan is always to find out two things: (1) if you're willing to sleep with him, and (2) if you are, how much it will cost to get you to sleep with him. Thats his mission.. (Advice from Steve Harvey-- Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man)
6. Treat him like a friend-- Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know that he has you--right where he wants you. ( Tip from Sherry Argov--Why Men Love Bitches)
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