7.30.2010

Confessions--Top 10 Celebrity Black Men

ITS MONDAY, EYE CANDY MONDAY!! Now seeing that Essence had their chance to put out their sexiest "top 10 sexiest black men", I figured why not I do my own. You can agree to disagree but heck this my blog DANGIT!!


10. WOOD HARRIS
YES, I KNOW.. MOST MAY NOT AGREE BUT I LOVE THIS MANS SMILE! I LIKE THE LAY BACK/STREET TYPE STYLE.. PLUS THE ROLES HE PLAYS GIVE HIM A HARD EDGE TO HIM.. LOVE IT!

9. POOCH HALL
PLAYING ON "THE GAME" MADE HIM TO BE SO ADORABLE, WITH HIS BABY FACE MADE EVERY WOMAN LOVE HIM.

8. PLEASURE P
WITH HIS VOICE, TATTOOS, AND TEMPTING EYES.. HE CAN BE MY BOYFRIEND #2 ANY DAY!!

7. LAMMAN RUCKER
I DID NOT KNOW THIS WAS WHATS UNDERNEATH THE "RESCUE MAN" FROM "WHY DID I GET MARRIED"!! WELL MAYBE IF I CLOSE MY EYES LONG ENOUGH I CAN HOPE THAT HE WILL COME RESCUE ME! LOL

6. COMMON
HIS STYLE, SWAG, AND LYRICS IS WHAT PUTS HIM ON MY LIST! HE IS ALSO ONE MAN THAT CAN PULL OFF A BALD HEAD TOO!
5. WENTWORTH MILLER

OK HES NOT ALL BLACK.. BUT HECK HIS DADDY HAS AFRICAN AMERICAN, AND JAMICIAN IN HIM SO DANGIT HES ON MY LIST!!LOL. I FOUND OUT ABOUT HIM AFTER WATCHING PRISON BREAK..LOVE THAT SHOW (HATE HOW IT ENDED)..BUT LETS JUST SAY HE KEPT ME INTERESTED IN THE SHOW!

4. DWAYNE WADE
NO IM NOT A HEATS FAN BUT I LOVE DWAYNE WADE! THERES NOT ALOT OF FINE BASKETBALL PLAYERS, SO HES ONE OUT HE HAS A SUDDEL CHARM TO HIM THAT YOU CANT RESIST, AND IT DOESNT HURT THAT HES GREAT ON THE COURT TOO.

3. LL COOL J

WHAT MORE CAN I SAY ABOUT LL. I THINK THIS MAN WILL BE 100 YRS OLD STILL LOOKING GOOD WHILE LICKING HIS LIPS!

2. MORRIS CHESTNUT

I KNOW YOU MIGHT CAN'T BELIEVE IT BUT YES MR. SEXY CHOCOLATE HIMSELF IS #2 ON MY LIST. HE IS STILL THE GREATEST GIFT GOD HAS EVER MADE ON THIS EARTH BUT I HAVE TO GIVE GOD EVEN MORE THANKS FOR THE #1 BROTHER ON MY LIST! BUT MORRIS HAS NOT BEEN FORGOTTEN HE STILL LOOKS SUAVE, SEXY, AND DELICOUS. :)


1. IDRIS ELBA
WELL, WELL... (NOW THANKING GOD)..LOL. WE ALL KNOW THIS MAN FROM "DADDYS LITTLE GIRL" AND ALSO FROM "OBESSED". HE CAUGHT MY EYE WHEN I SEEN THE WIRE. BESIDES HIM BEING TALL, NICE BODY, AND SEXY SMILE... ONCE I HEARD HE HAD A ACCENT, IT WAS ALL OVER! THIS MAN STOLE MY HEART! A BROTHER THAT HAS GOOD LOOKS AND CAN SPEAK A DIFFERENT ACCENT, AWWWW!



Confession--Age Ain't Nothing but a Number



Let’s keep it real on a Friday, when you’re making your checklist for a man, do you list a specific age?

Are younger guys listed in your “no way” column, do older guys make you say “eeewww”?

Since I started dating I never believed in dating younger men. I always dated men older than me because I believed that they are alot more mature and more likely have set plan in life. Younger guys I believe are more child play and are everywhere!! I step out of my norm of dating a younger guy and will not do it again. I believe there are someone out there for everyone but for me, I will not go back young!

When we see an older woman with a younger man, we tend to think: why is she robbing the cradle, is she that desperate? And secondly, why is he with her and her baggage, doesn’t he want a more vibrant woman?

Men always date much younger women. Kimora Lee was 23 when she wed a 41-year-old Russell Simmons. Beyonce, at 26, married a 38-year-old Jay-Z and back in the day Diana Ross was 27 when she had 42-year-old Berry Gordy’s daughter.

Do you think it’s all about a vibe and commitment, or is age more than just a number?


HERE SOME TERMS FOR THOSE WOMEN WHO DATE YOUNGER MEN:

Cub - Younger Man interesting in dating or sleeping with a woman 10 or more years older then him (usually in their late teens, 20’s and 30’s)

Puma - A woman in her 30’s (They use to be called C.I.T’s… Cougars In Training)

Cougar - A woman in her 40’s interested in dating or sleeping with men 10+ years younger then her

Manther - A woman in her 50’s interested in dating or sleeping with men 10 years or more her junior

Snow Cat - A woman in her 60’s interested in dating or boinking ( lol) men 10 years or more her junior

Jaguars - A woman in her 70’s interested in dating or hooking up with younger men




7.29.2010

Confession-- Which Social Site is the Best?


Everyone I know is on Facebook these days. It went from just connecting with college friends to Celebrities and companies promoting on the website. I remember when it was blackplanet, and then Myspace.. now FACEBOOK. Personally the reason why I like Facebook more is because you don't have to spend hours to build a page. All you have to do is add friends and comment..PERFECT! Having a blackplanet page you had to think of a great introduction about yourself and profile picture that will fill your inbox within an hour. I remember that, me and my friends would go check our blackplanet during lunch to see how many visits and inbox messages we had.. whoa the days! With Myspace, you can probably consider that to be your own personal website cause i swear it took me like 3 days just to come up with a background, music, and other applications that fit my page. Seeing that Facebook is the only social site alot of people are on now, its starting to get old for some cause I'm noticing alot of folks migrating over to Twitter. WHAT THE HECK!! I mean come on people if Facebook don't update us enough about our personal lives then whats going to give by trading over to Twitter. Now Im a early victim of Twitter but haven't been on it in a while, so I gave up on it. Seeing that I have over 500 friends on Facebook I can't leave my comfort home..lol. But whats next after Twitter!! lol


HERES OTHER SOCIAL WEBSITE I FELL VICTIM OF... WOMP WOMP!

  • Tagged
  • Cafemom
  • Twitter
  • Flickr
  • Facebook
  • Myspace
  • Blackplanet

IN SEARCH OF ANOTHER GREAT SOCIAL WEBSITE... HERE ARE SOME FUTURE POTENTIALS! lol

  • Mychillingspot
  • Friendster
  • Faceparty
  • Purevolume
  • Tagworld
  • Piczo
  • Mycrib

7.23.2010

Confession--Zodiac Sign



I have a secert guilty pleasure and that is zodiac signs. I don't believe them but I find it fun to read about it and see how close they have to your personality. I'm an Aries.. yes all day errrrday! :) I found this article about my sign. Now those who know me, tell me if this fits my personality. Also to my other Aries out there hope this may enlighten you alittle.

(resource found on http://zodiac-signs-astrology.com/zodiac-signs/aries.htm)
Astrology Aries March 21 - April 19

Aries Strength Keywords:
- Independent
- Generous
- Optimistic
- Enthusiastic
- Courageous

Aries Weakness Keywords:
- Moody
- Short tempered
- Self-involved
- Impulsive
- Impatient

Aries and Independence:
Aries personalities are independent. Being the first of the zodiac signs, they venture out and are go-getters, often leading the way. Their upbeat and magnetic personality often entices others to follow their lead because Aries personalities bring excitement into others lives.
Aries and Friendship:
Aries are good friends, they always look out for their friends with caring and generosity and will protect them should the need arise and encourage them with their natural optimism. If confronted, Aries can turn to be quite childish, they will fight back with their agressive nature and are known to have temper tantrums should they not get their way.
Aries and Business:
Aries are activists. If a business idea comes their way, they tend to plunge right in. Aries are more then willing to take a gamble and follow their dreams and goals. However, if success is not immediate, they tend to lose interest and give up easily. Aries are notorious for not finishing what they have begun. This is due to the low tolerance for boredom and lack of patience. If the excitement is gone from their business idea, they go off and search for it elsewhere.
Aries Temperament:
Independence is key to Aries astrology, they do not like to take orders from others and enjoy getting their way. They can get childish or moody should they be given orders that they do not like. Aries easily take offense to comments made. Aries are self-involved and can be self-centered, if they do not pay attention to the feelings of others, Aries can easily become spoiled and resented by others. In order to get their way, Aries will tell a lie if it seems advantageous to do so. They are however, not very good liars and other people can usually see through them.
Aries Deep Inside:
Underneath the strong, independent surface may lie insecurity. This is due to the intense drive to succeed and Aries put too much pressure on themselves, thus resulting in self-doubt however, the natural optimism and enthusiasm overtakes this and the underlying insecurity may never be known to others.
Aries in a Nutshell:
Aries is the first of the zodiac signs. Aries is the sign of the self, people born under this sign strongly project their personalities onto others and can be very self-oriented. Aries tend to venture out into the world and leave impressions on others that they are exciting, vibrant and talkative. Aries tend to live adventurous lives and like to be the center of attention, but rightly so since they are natural, confident leaders. Aries are enthusiastic about their goals and enjoy the thrill of the hunt, "wanting is always better then getting" is a good way to sum it up. Aries are very impulsive and usually do not think before they act - or speak. Too often Aries will say whatever pops into their head and usually end up regretting it later!

Aries Love, Sex and Relationships
What it's like to date an Aries Woman:
Dating an Aries never lacks excitement. She is hot-blooded, and forceful, so you had better be able to handle the heat! The Aries woman is for the person who likes an independent self-driven woman who can fend for herself and is not clingy and needy. An Aries woman requires freedom. For the Aries woman, the best part of the relationship is the beginning, then the spark is there and she is trying to catch you to be hers. She will find happiness in a long-term relationship because she enjoys sharing everything with her partner. She will not only have a romantic partner but a best friend too. She has a great need for love and passion but she will never let a man become the master, she considers her partner to be equal. Aries women are not for domineering men. She will be faithful but she expects the same in return. She can be jealous because she wants a man to give her all of his attention, "all or nothing", so her jealously is rooted in her possessiveness, she has to be number one in his eyes. She will always encourage and give strength to her partner so an Aries woman is great to have in times of despair or need, she will always be there for you. In order to have this happy ending, she needs to feel appreciated and loved.

What it's like to date an Aries Man:
An Aries man has a lust for adventure so if you are thinking about having a relationship with an Aries man, be prepared for fast-paced adventure, novelty and excitement. He is always eager to try new things - including relationships. That is not to say that every Aries man will only provide an exciting and short-lived relationship, but this is usually the case. He might stick around if you are the type of woman that enjoys having the man take the lead and basking in his glory. He enjoys challenge so if you are the woman to offer challenges to him - like playing hard to get - he might stick around longer. Remember, this man is all about the thrill of the chase. Do not however, act as if you don't care about him. He needs you to be "swept off your feet" by him. Appear innocent- hard-to-get and he will be wrapped around your little finger. Never take advantage of the Aries man because his short temper will turn into a fury of anger and he way leave and never look back.

How To Attract Aries:
Let Aries know that you admire them, they thrive of admiration and followers. Let them know that you love their zest for life and that you find them intriguing, they love compliments more then most other astrology signs of the zodiac. Compliment them physically and mentally, they like conversation about intellectual topics and engage them in a lively discussion, or a friendly debate. They love the challenge and the stimulation of good, intelligent conversation. Ask them for advice, let them know that you look up to them. Remember, Aries is the first sign of the zodiac and the most forward and independent, they love followers. Do not be a push over, do not keep your opinions to yourself because Aries will quickly get bored if you agree with everything they say. Do not attempt to control them however, they do not like taking orders. Aries are very capable people so if you go with their plans, you are sure to have a good time! If they have a suggestion for something to do, go with the flow, they like to be in control of what goes on.

Aries Erogenous Zone:
The head is Aries' most powerful erogenous zone. Stroking their hair and rubbing their scalp will make them feel relaxed and heighten their sensations. Nibble the ear, for especially the men, they will not be able to resist this, he will get uncontrollable urges and you will soon be all his!

Sex With Aries:
The Aries zodiac sign is straightforward, aggressive and adventurous and this is reflected in their approach to sex. Expect it to be physical, quick and rough, they like to dominate and have the upper position.

Confession--Breakups


Sorry everyone I miss a blog yesterday but I will give you guys double the blogs today. I recently went through a break up and it hurts but you have to move on. I learned alot from it and I took it upon myself to finally do whats best and thats to give that love I had for my ex and put it all on my little ones and God. But I was definetly in love and this break up will be hard at times to get over. But with the help of my family and friends I have been doing great. Also watching comedy shows helps bring laughter in your life. So im going to share a few to those who are also going through a break up too. SMILE!

--ALITTLE WORDS OF WISDOM--
"You should be so in love with the lord that a guy has to seek him to find you...<3..."

"Sometimes the person you want most, is the person you're best without."

"Crying over "the one" means that they weren't the one. Cause the one won't make you cry. They will fill your life with joy."

Jokes.com
Kevin Hart - Break Up
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Rudy Rush - Break Ups
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7.21.2010

Confession-- Black Women Dating Outside of Her Race

So because I never dated outside my race I had to do a little research. After researching it says in results of a lot of black women being single today is because they are waiting on that one good "black man". Now we all know we (us sistas) have a slim chance of finding that GOOD black man. Majority of them are locked up, in the process of getting locked up, down low or just plain gay. Now we know I love my black men but us sistas got to give the outside race a chance. We are so stuck in our slavery mentality of blaming the white man or scared of the black men calling us a sell out. Well I say forget the black man calling you a sell out because some of them don't mind selling out themselves!!!

I know it's been told in many black homes “To not bring a white man/woman home". So other than being told that we are sell outs from our black brothers, you may also be a sell out at home. And honestly I was programmed to believe that if I bring a white man home all hell would come loss. It’s when I grew up a little I came to realize MEN are MEN. I heard stories from other black women dating white men (and not just talking about our "white man w/ a little hood in them) and they go through the same issues. So really the moral of this confession is that regardless of the race we should come out of our box and explore a little. We shouldn't be set on one race because what we learned in our culture or the fear of being a "sell out". We as black woman should finally come to our senses and realize our prince charming might not be a black man and we are missing out because of the hope of catching him.


---LISTEN TO THIS---

http://www.oprah.com/oprahradio/Black-Women-Who-Date-White-Men-Audio

7.19.2010

Confession--Everyday I'm Hustling!!



Hustling defined by Urban Dictionary:

Hustling iz makin' money out of everything no matter what it iz something that mostly happenz in ghetto'z where people don't have much so they need to hustle.



Hustling, The first thing I think about when I get out of my bed every morning. The song "Hustling" by Rick Ross plays in my head while I grab some orange juice and eat my cereal. I can't STRESS with a PASSION how much I sometimes hate getting up for work and talk to the same people everyday but its making money. But on the other I try my best to gain as much experience in my field so other than my job I also work with Deck Entertainment (D's up) and TBA Group LLC. The music industry is not an easy area to excel in, so you have to bus your butt and get out there in order to make it. With that being said anyone that has asked me to do volunteer work or intern I will do it.

Now the past couple of days have been rather discouraged because of financial reasons. My job isn't pay enough and my side jobs aren’t paying anything at all. So me being a supermom, I'm coming up with ideas to make extra money but failing to come with a solution. This indeed is a very frustrating process, so I came to the conclusion that I should join the Army. Now this might not sound like a good idea to many of you but to me I’m not trying to live struggling all my life. It’s not official yet what choice I might make but until then I’ll keep hustling. This is just me coming up with ways of making it, like a lot of us hustlers do.


Hustlin - Rick Ross
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7.17.2010

Confession-- Facebook Breakup




Excuse me this morning I'm little tired but i'm catching up on the days i've missed. Someone showed me this video awhile back and it's very funny but true. Especially within my relationship and observing others you can really say that FB can really destroy relationships if you allow it to get to you.

Do you believe FB break up relationship? Whats your experience? Lets hear it!

7.14.2010

Confession-- Fake or Real




..Are you the type to carry a bag/purse you love even if its FAKE? Or would you rock ONLY the real deal?

After helping my girl Sherrine out with a topic yesterday, I decided to use it for myself as well. This is something alot of us are guilty of because who doesn't want to be able to rock a Coach, or LV purse. I personally love expensive things if i could afford it but in these times of the year, sista on a budget! Now I am the type of female that loves my Coach but I can also rock a $20.00 purse any day if it looks good.
I love accessories from the purses to the shoes. So I took it upon myself to research alittle and help my sistas on a budget that refuse to wear a fake designer accessory.

Now if you a fake lover and don't mind, I got you ladies too. ;)


Can you tell real from fake?? (resource from http://www.hilary.com/fashion/fakeorfendi.html)

Here can help you tell the difference from the real and fake..

1. Watch for lining that isn't stitched in, but glued on. The same goes for labels.

2. The material used can also be a dead giveaway; if the signature plaid of a Burberry bag is even slightly askew, it's a fake.

3. Some knockoffs do take the time to stitch the lining into place; in these, look for threading that is pulling in spots. A real designer bag would have near-perfect threading.

4. Ask where the bag was made or look for a label. If you see "Made in China," you can pretty much pass up that purse. Do some research before you go shopping, so you know where the real thing is manufactured.

QUIZ: Can you spot the fake ChloƩ Paddington?





Hint: It's the one that costs $1600. Left, fake; right, real







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http://www.bagborroworsteal.com/welcome

http://www.bluefly.com/

http://www.efashionhouse.com/

7.12.2010

Confessions-- Music in My Soul


Everyone knows I have a passion for music. I might not sing or play an instrument but I love music.. I love it all from country to R&B. Now I might had my share of ups and downs in my career path but for some reason music keeps on bringing me back. Currently I'm pursing my degree in Music Business at Globe University. My goal, I want to eventually be able to have so much knowledge about music that I can deliver the feeling and sound of music with my writing. I'm inspired when I read from magazines such as VIBE, and ROLLING STONE ( BTW..IF ANY EDITORS ARE READING THIS PLEASE LET ME BE APART OF YOUR TEAM...Lol) Now if anyone knows me well and have been in my car they will all know my favorite genre is NEO SOUL. I love Neo Soul simply because its poetry w/ music, it gives you a good feeling. When I want to feel positive about life, and love through the good and bad... This is the music I listen to. This type of music isn't something that a lot of people will dig (I’m sure cause a lot of my friends hate getting in my car...Lol). Some of my fellow Neo Soul lovers, may also enjoy listening to Jazz and Poetry.

So here I leave you with a couple of my favorite songs that I jam to daily...






7.09.2010

Confessions-- Dating as a Single Mother


Ok so me being a single mother dating is very new to me. Since I left college in 2005 I have been with the father of my kids for 5 years. So I really never had to experience being a single mother. Even though me and the father of my children aren't together today I’m still not considered a "typical" (single mother that doesn’t have any help from the father's children) single mother because their father is there. But one problem that I’m starting to be aware of is dating as a single mother. I can say it is different from dating when I was young without any children (defiantly easier..Lol). Over the past year of dating a few clowns, and speaking to either my brothers or male friends, I was told that it will be very rare w/ me having two children, any man will be interested in me SERIOUSLY (kind of semi disappointing news :( ). Another thing I had to be aware of is that being I have my own place, car, and got it going on((wink..lol))that a man will only be interested in me for what I have and how he can get by. So I have to have a special radar to detect the "users".

Now seeing that i live in Madison, WI, first majority of the black men date white women. Also Madison is a small town, so everyone has dated everyone. So its less likely to find many black single professional men that likes to date a black woman with one or more children..lol.

So even though I still do what I want and a little hardheaded at times I do still listen to the advice of my lovely male friends (very helpful indeed) and everyone knows I have a bad habit of reading too much into books (lol). So here are some tips/advice I will share to help the single mothers dating out....


1. A man will always be curious and wonder that there is someone out there better than you. It will be until he’s 30 when he will finally settle down and get with it. Even though you might just be the one he wants to marry he will still look at the other chick and wonder "what if". So ladies chill out don't rush it. (Advice from Latone Heart)

2. Never settle for less, a man will only take advantage of what you allow him to take advantage of.

Your kids see and hear a lot more than you think.

You have a lifetime to find love but your child's chilhood it only a short time and once its gone you can't get that time back.(Advice from Gershon Porter aka Sammy)

3. A man that really loves you rarely says "I love you" because he shows it more than he will say it. " I can admit I rarely tell my girl I love her but I have sent her flowers at random times"( Advice from Chen Cheng)

4. If a nigga can tell you within three days he loves you thats BS... that nigga is telling you exactly what you want to hear don't fall for it. ( Advice from Marquis Fort)

5. A man always wants something. ALWAYS. And when it comes to women, that plan is always to find out two things: (1) if you're willing to sleep with him, and (2) if you are, how much it will cost to get you to sleep with him. Thats his mission.. (Advice from Steve Harvey-- Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man)

6. Treat him like a friend-- Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know that he has you--right where he wants you. ( Tip from Sherry Argov--Why Men Love Bitches)

---FEEL FREE TO GIVE MORE ADVICE, ADD COMMENT BELOW---

I FOUND THIS VIDEO AFTER WRITING THE BLOG, IT MIGHT HELP..CHECK IT OUT.


7.08.2010

Confessions-- Ride or Die Chicks

Is there a such thing as a ride or die chick? Or, is she a fictional character made up by the niggas that are running game trying to have their cake and ice cream too and the misguided females that believe in them? There are hundreds of authors, philosophers, and experts with every piece of advice imaginable about what one should and should not endure in a relationship. But, which take is the right take?

Let me hear some opinions from you gals!


Here are my top 5 celebrity RIDE OR DIE CHICKS...


5. Beyonce

She is the newbie in the ride or die clique but she definitely holds HOVA down!




4. Jada Picknett Smith
Did you see her legs at the BET Awards??? I mean Jada and them legs got a control and hold over Will I’m sure..lol! Besides that Jada and Will are one of the most successful celebrity relationships and I’m sure it’s mostly due to Jada keeping things grounded and riding for her man.




3. Tiny
Yea so we all know TI was in Jail but wait they been together how long and got kids and still aren’t married!! Tiny is true example of a Ride or Die Chick. She has stuck through it all regardless of her mans commitment to her.



2. Shante
Shante isn't really well known out in the celebrity world but she did prove what a good woman and wife she is when she came out on Snoop show "Fatherhood'. We all know Snoop to be the pimp daddy/weed smoking/laid back type of dude, who would of thought he had a ride or die chick back home.



1. Michelle Obama
What more can I say about this woman... who else can ride or die beside President Obama. She is the ideal example of a ride or die LADY, cause she holds her man down only w/ class.

7.07.2010

Confessions--Behind Church



Its tradition, every (ok not EVERY, but I’m being funny) black person wakes up Sunday morning, blast Kirk Franklin and get going to their local Baptist church. Everyone then gathers at their place of worship to get a good sermon from their Pastor, Deacon, or Minister to get them on the right path to righteousness. Me personally, at a young age I’ve believed that the next thing closet to Jesus was the Pastor (ok, I’m being funny again), until one day, a memory I won't forget when I found out a Pastor is human. They cheat, lie, steal, and sin just like us. Its like telling a child Santa isn't real (funny but not funny)..lol. I have had my share of experience in churches, I believe we all have. We all have been brainstormed to believe pastors are Jesus and to do right by them and your life is good.

Now before you read further I am a woman of God and pretty spiritual. But it is painful to know the stories of Pastors having affairs with the parishioners, stealing money, living a Down Low lifestyles, Really? It's sad but true. Eventually you will start to get use to going to church and listening to just the WORD and not the voices. Now I do still got hopes, and believe that there are in fact some good faithful churches out there and almost perfect pastors that don't have any motives behind their power. But until then I will continue to be able to develop a closer relationship with God where I will not have to be destroyed by disappoints of one person’s mistakes.